I hope you and your family enjoyed a Merry Christmas. As you may have noticed, I have not updated my blog for a while. I have a good reason: I have been reffing a lot of basketball in the past month. The season has gone well. Before a tournament game this afternoon between two out-of-state schools, I had three one-point games in a row (one of which went to overtime) this week. I love close games.

I have also had a coach’s ejection, witnessed a BasketCase that was just relentless yelling at his own team’s players (the crowd jeered him for his 20-second tirade at his own team, he could have used a copy of BasketCases) and was evaluated during a holiday tournament game (we’ll see how the report comes out).

With my busy high school and college schedule, I have only done a couple of youth basketball tournaments and won’t work any in January. I just received a nice e-mail from a college friend with a couple of youth basketball-aged sons who loved BasketCases. I hope you are enjoying the season. And have a wonderful new year. 

A month ago, Twin Cities television station KARE-11 aired a story about a seventh-grade boys’ basketball player from Eagan (MN) who was cut from his “C” traveling basketball team. He wasn’t the only kid cut at that level, but he was the only one who was recovering from cancer. The player couldn’t try out this year because he had casts on both legs, a byproduct of his illness. If I recall correctly, the policy of the Eagan Athletic Association is that if a player can’t try out, they go back to his performance from the previous season.  In this case, it was a season the player didn’t feel well and probably didn’t play well because he was battling cancer.

After the television story aired, the Eagan Athletic Association was flooded with angry e-mails and also a couple of offers for the player to join similar teams on neighboring communities.

There was a case in which Eagan could not win. Obviously, the association followed its policies. What about the other kids who were cut? Maybe they had extenuating circumstances that wouldn’t allow them to try out. On the other side of the argument is a call for compassion and common sense. Some call for compassion. Others call it preferential treatment. A no-win situation. 

The bigger question lurking is should you cut anyone at the “C” level? Some people don’t think so. I don’t think you can give a blanket answer one way or another without knowing all the circumstances and the number of players on the teams.

Sometimes, you just have to cut. If a player doesn’t make a traveling team, they most likely can play in an in-house program. That could motivate the player to work harder to try to make the team the following year.

I’m just glad the young man got the opportunity to play on a team this year. Clearly basketball is important to him. And in the big picture, life in more important than sport. But if sport helps one live his  life in the face of cancer, then sport is a good thing.

Here is a link to the KARE-11 story.

http://www.kare11.com/news/investigative/extras/extra_article.aspx?storyid=828711&catid=26 

If you read the BasketCases blog, you know I write about basketball, officiating and sportsmanship issues. This week, I am throwing a curve ball and writing about football.

A disclaimer: I have been a New England Patriots fan since December 1982 when the Pats beat Miami 3-0 during a blizzard in Foxborough in which a prisoner on work-release drove a snowplow onto the field on his own volition. He cleared a path, allowing Pats’ left-footed placekicker John Smith to kick a fourth-quarter field goal. I was 12 at the time and remember Brent Musburger on the CBS Post-Game Show saying “You are not going to believe what is going on in New England. It’s been snowing in Foxborough all day…”

Needless to say, I was glued to my TV Sunday night as the Pats played the Colts in a classic game in which the Colts won 35-34. As everyone who watches football knows by now, the Patriots faced a 4th and 1 1/2 with just over two minutes to go at their own 28 1/2 yard line. Patriots coach Bill Belichick elected to go for the first down instead of punting the ball with a six-point lead and giving the ball back to Peyton Manning with two minutes and one time-out remaining.

Let me summarize my position in seven words: Bill Belichick absolutely made the RIGHT CALL! I loved that call and if the exact same situation presented itself again, they should do it again. I know I am in the minority on this, but let me explain.

When that Pats went a little conservative after a Manning pick (instead of going for the jugular) and kicking a field goal to go up 13 points with about five minutes left to play, I expected two outcomes. Indy would score a touchdown before the two-minute warning, forcing New England to pick up a first down to win the game. Otherwise, if Indy got the ball back they would score again and win 35-34.

As expected, Manning marched right down the field and scored a touchdown with 2:23 left to play. Scoring in front of the two-minute warning proved to be huge. When New England got the ball back, they inexcusably called its second time-out before their first down play. Following the time-out, they ran the ball for no gain (hated the play call, especially after wasting a time-out,  I think you try for a safe pass to get five to seven yards there.) 

On second down, Pats quarterback Tom Brady threw a pass to Wes Welker, which picked up about eight yards, leaving third and a short two. At that time, I told my wife that New England should consider this four-down territory and potentially run on third (and fourth down, if necessary) to pick up less than two yards. On third down, Brady got blitzed and almost threw a pick, leaving fourth down and less than two yards to go.

Before fourth down, Belichick called his final time-out to make sure everything was in place to try and win the game. If New England would have picked up that first down, they probably would have punted to Indianapolis with about 25 seconds left in the game. Even the great Peyton Manning wouldn’t have scored a touchdown in that situation.

Here is why going for it on fourth down and short was the Right Call:

* First of all, not only do I think he made the right call, but I think it worked. The ball may not have been spotted correctly. Replays clearly show that Kevin Faulk started to catch the ball at the 30 1/2 yard line. He bobbled it once and established control with his left hand directly over the 30 yard line before he was pushed back by the Colts’ defender. The line judge immediately came out with a “juggling” signal and spotted the play short of the 30. The officials didn’t even have to measure because the kickoff was a touchback. That meant the Pats started at the 20 and needed to reach the 30 yard line for a first down. I’m not a football official and I have never read an football rulebook, but I would think that once you establish possession after the bobble (which Faulk clearly did at the 30 on replay), then you should be given that forward progress (if not, the ball was spotted correctly and this point is moot). In defense of the officials, the line judge had the almost impossible task of trying to see through the players to truly see when the bobble ended. Unfortunately for New England, the play started before the two-minute warning. That means Belichick couldn’t challenge the play because he was out of time-outs. If it was the first play after the two-minute warning, there would have been a booth review. It would have been interesting to see if referee Scott Green would have had enough “evidence” to give the Pats the first down. We will never know. One way to avoid all this is to have Faulk run his route a yard deeper. That would have eliminated the potential human error in spotting the football.

* I loved the call because Belichick went for the win. In the NFL, we see almost all head coaches (Brad Childress and Mike Singletary specifically come to mind) playing NOT TO LOSE. If the Pats pick up the first down, they win the game.

* You have to understand the situation. If you give the ball back to Peyton Manning with two minutes and a time-out left, he would have marched the Colts right down the field and scored a game-winning touchdown, I’m sure of it. Could there have been a tipped pass or a crucial drop? Of course, but the odds were overwhelmingly in Manning’s favor, especially after two quick, successful 79-yard drives in the fourth quarter already. He had plenty of time to execute. New England’s defense was gassed (and their D-line depleted). The reason teams don’t rally in that situation is, either they get pressured and/or sacked or because their quarterback just isn’t that good. This is a sitaution in which no one in the league is better than Peyton Manning and New England had no chance of putting any pressure on him. 

* Peyton Manning is the only quarterback in the league that you respect so much that you don’t want him to get the ball back. You punt to every other quarterback there. Also, I think you punt if New England only leads by three and hope the Colts play conservative and become satisfied with a field goal to send it into overtime.

* A history lesson. This game was eerily similar to the AFC championship game three years ago in which the Pats had a huge lead before losing it. The Pats led by four with two minutes to play. It was third down and 5. Brady and Troy Brown miscommunicated on an option route. If the Pats picked up the first down, they would have gone to the Super Bowl as the Colts were out of time-outs. They punted the ball near mid-field and Manning dissected the Pats for the winning touchdown. I’m sure Belichick stewed all off-season that he should have gambled to try and win the game on fourth down there instead of playing not to lose.

* The Pats defense just isn’t that good. Not only were the Pats depleted and tired, their defense is made up of a lot of good players, but only one great player (nose guard Vince Wilfork, who is a beast, but primarily at stopping the run). They no longer have studs like Vrabel, Harrison, Bruschi, McGinnest, Law, Samuel, etc. to make a play to win the game. The defense played great to force the Colts to punt seven times, but you can only hold off Manning for so long.

* Belichick has successfully gone for it before on fourth and short in his own territory against the Colts. In one the AFC championship games against the Colts in Foxborough (I think it was the 21-3 victory), the Pats faced fourth and less than a yard on their opening drive. Belichick went for it. The Pats picked up a first down and went on to score a touchdown on that drive to set the tempo for the day. The beauty of that play was the Pats didn’t waste a time-out, lined up in a tight formation and then spread everyone out in a four- or five-receiver set, before Brady successfully executed a quarterback sneak for the first down (clearly, the Pats were prepared for that play). New England also went for it on 4th and 1 at its own 24 (in the third quarter) earlier this year against Atlanta. That was successful and led to a field goal in New England’s 26-10 victory.

All I know is most of America think Belichick screwed up and lost the game for the Pats. He says that call gave his team the best opportunity to win the game. I totally agree. Put the ball in Tom Brady’s hands and go for the win — even in your own territory. Bill Belichick absolutely made the Right Call.

And for those thinking I am drinking the Patriots kool-aid, I would have felt the same way if Norv Turner made the same call.

A few weeks ago, all registered high school basketball officials in Minnesota received a packet in the mail that included the new Rule Books. Most of the rules stay the same year to year, but there are some tweaks, usually in the areas of legal jerseys, headbands and other “fashion” items we are expected to police. The rules that govern high school basketball in this country (and youth basketball) follow the rules established by the National Federation of High School Associations.

Of the two 2009-10 “Rule Books” in my packet, one has a purple cover, and the other is green. Can you guess which color is the boys’ Rule Book and which one is the girls Rule Book? Green? Purple? Give up?

Trick question. There is only one Rule Book (technically called a “Rules Book”) - and it boasts a purple cover by the way. The other Rule Book I was referring to (with the green cover) is this year’s Case Book.

What’s the difference? The Rule Book is just that, a specific list of rules on 72 pages that no one outside the NFHS editor can truly grasp every nuance. It’s boring, mundane reading that most parents, many coaches and too high of a percentage of youth basketball officials never have and never will read. The Case Book is way more interesting because it is filled with specific situations, such as “traveling or not” and the rule the justifies the example.

When I wrote BasketCases, my publisher sought and received permission from the NFHS to use specific examples from the current rule book and case book at the time (2007) to verify and document key rules and how officials apply them. Section IV of my book is entitled “Six Rules Every BasketCase Must Understand and Memorize.” It was important that I devoted a small section to six key rules – traveling, “over the back,” illegral dribble, over-and-back, block/charge and three seconds in the lane — which are routinely misunderstood. For example, the reason “over the back” has quote marks around it is because there is no such rule even though moms, dads and coaches in gyms in every city in this country scream for it and plenty of officials erroneously use the wrong terminology to call a foul. For each of those rules mentioned above, I divide the chapter in four sections: What the Rule Book says, What the Case Book says, The Whistleblower Reality and What BasketCases Need to Know.

If every youth basketball parent, coach and official read just those 20 pages, the drug companies would have far less consumers in need of their high blood pressure medicine. It could serve as a catalyst for health care reform.

Let me share a recent encounter with a youth basketball coach during a fall league game. Near the end of the first half, a player made an “up-and-under” move and scored a basket. The opposing coach thought it was a traveling violation. I didn’t think so and neither did my partner. That coach and I had a lengthy discussion at halftime about the play.

He claimed that the opposing player took two steps. I explained that it doesn’t matter how many steps he took. What matters is: Did the player’s pivot foot return to the floor before a shot or a pass? I tried to explain that a player can lift his or her pivot foot as long as that player shoots or passes the ball before returning it to the floor. (This is mentioned in Chapter 15: “Travelng” on page 68 of BasketCases, along with the specific rule I am referring to: 4-44-3a).

The coach didn’t want to — or choose not to – listen to my explanation. I told him that Janel McCarville became an All-American at the University of Minnesota on that move, which riled him up something fierce. He argued that this wasn’t girls’ basketball, my example proved his point and I was dead wrong, and loudly told me to ask my partner or anyone in the gym that there is a separate rule book for girls basketball (which must have gotten lost in the mail for 12 consecutive years). I should have used Kevin McHale as an example instead! As I mentioned already, there is only one rule book for high school basketball. In college, there are different rule books for men’s and women’s basketball, but that vast majority of those rules are the same, with a few noteworthy exceptions (e.g., no 10-second count in the backcourt for college women, 30-second shot clock (35 for men), etc.). The traveling rule the coach was complaining about is the same in high school and college.

I love it when a coach who obviously has never opened a rule book claims there are two rule books! Just part of the ongoing fun basketball officials deal with every weekend. By the way, Rule 1, Section 12, Articles D and E specify the different sizes and weight for high school boys and girls competition, the only difference between girls and boys basketball that I am aware of. And if you really want to know, Article C states that the ball..shall have a deeply pebbled cover with horizontally shaped panels bonded tightly to a rubber carcass.

Good stuff. Trust me, BasketCases is way more entertaining and enlightening. Someone get this coach a copy for Christmas.  

In case you were saving up your book-buying money for Tim Donaghy’s upcoming biography, you won’t be reading it any time soon. Donaghy, the disgraced NBA referee, who went to prison for betting on basketball games, had written a manuscript for an upcoming book “Blowing the Whistle: The Culture of Fraud in the NBA.” According to a story on ESPN.com (link below), the publisher, Triumph Books, and parent company, Random House, cancelled the book because of potential liability issues.

I think most people can agree that any book written by Tim Donaghy would likely be filled with fraud and stretching of the truth. If you haven’t already, invest those book-buying dollars in “BasketCases: How youth Basketball Parents Can Lower Their Blood Pressure and Keep Their Sanity,” the first book of its kind in the country to make basketball a better experience for all participants.

http://sports.espn.go.com/nba/news/story?id=4603209

 In case you missed this story out of Massachusetts from a couple of days ago, follow the link below. Apparently a dad bought his son to football practice late. The coach didn’t like the tardiness and ordered the player to run laps as a consequence. Dad didn’t like the fact that his son was punished, saying it was his own fault, not his son’s fault. Apparently the parent and the coach called each other names, went behind a building to settle their differences and then the coach allegedly punched the dad in the face, breaking his eye socket. Charges are pending, according to the news report.

Good Lord. Another classic example of the problems associated with youth sports. Do I have a issue with the coach telling the boy to run some extra laps? Absolutely not. He missed some practice. Seems fair to me as long as it wasn’t excessive. The player probably won’t be late next time and he got some exercise during the process.  Perhaps if the tardiness was truly the father’s fault, Dad should have volunteered to run the laps with his son instead of allegedly instigating a fight with the coach.

Obviously both the coach and the parent are to blame here for the escalated argument and subsequent assault. Clearly is sends an awful message that differences are handled with fists instead of words. How embarrassing! At least the confrontation ended with only relatively minor physical damage. Next summer marks the 10th anniversary of a hockey dad killing another parent right in front of his sons. That also happened in Massachusetts. Will we ever learn from these incidents?  

http://multimedia.wbz.com/m/video/26971147/wilmington-dad-hurt-in-fight-with-football-coach.htm

Last Sunday, I drove to Andover, Minnesota, to speak to that community’s boys’ basketball association parent meeting. This was the second year I have spoken to that group. I talked about basketball rules that parents and coaches often don’t understand and talked about the importance of sportsmanship and a positive experience.

For the first time, I also encouraged youth basketball parents to talk a “day off” during the season. The Andover teams will participate in 10 tournaments. Assuming most of those are two-day tournaments, what is wrong with sending your kid with another parent and either having the day for yourself as a person or as a couple or with your other (non-basketball) kids. Seems to me that 19 out of 20 is still outstanding attendance.

I was visiting with a guy after the meeting who purchased BasketCases. He was a dad who was coaching a junior high “C” team because no one else would volunteer. I stressed the importance about making basketball a positive experience, and he agreed.

One statistic he told me was very interesting. He said one of the Andover parents estimated how much money their family spent on youth basketball from 4th grade through the senior year. The price tag: $15,000 dollars.

That is a lot of dough. But when you add up fees to play during the season and during the spring, entrance fees, gas, hotel rooms, food on the road, etc., you can see how easy it is for basketball to become an extensive proposition. That’s why, at $20, I think a copy of BasketCases may be the best value in youth basketball. 

We hear the phrase “pay for performance” a lot in the business world these days. The theory makes sense. If you perform well, you should be compensated more. It makes sense for professionals in sales and for bonuses in other industries.

I heard a story last night related to pay for performance that made my head explode. I was in Rosemount to speak to their youth basketball association parents meeting. After I spoke to a large group of parents about several rules that youth basketball parents and coaches often don’t know or understand, I met Steve Schuster, who is the Coach and Player Development Coordinator for Rosemount traveling basketball. He told me the story of a player who was actually paid money for each basket she made. Are you serious? If I recall correctly she was in sixth grade. I can’t think of anything worse to destroy the team concept than rewarding — or bribing, if you want to call that — your son or daughter for making a basket. “Hey Jenny, pass me the ball.” “I don’t want to. If I shoot and make a basket my mom will pay me a dollar.”

I have heard numerous youth sports parenting stories that make me cringe. Usually, its the ”premeditated” parent who will do anything to give their son or daughter an advantage over other players. I hope this parent doesn’t fall under this category. I want to think that this parent is just not very smart. But you never know.

Sixth grade basketball is no place to pay for performance. That kid is going to grow up with a warped sense of money and motivational issues. If you want to pay for performance, youth team sports is not the place to do it.  

Wanted to chime in on the Serena Williams outburst despite my tardiness. Most of the country knows about Serena’s tirade at a line judge during the U.S. Open semifinal match against Kim Clijsters. Serena was down one set and trailing 5-6 in the second set. In the decisive game, at 15-30, Serena was called for a double-fault on her second serve.

First things first, that was a terrible call. There are times in sports where you don’t call little meaningless fouls or violations when there was no advantage. In this case, its hard to tell watching the videotape if Serena even foot-faulted. She probably did and it would have been defensible to call on her first serve, but lets look at the situation. If she did violate, it was just barely. Secondly, it was a second serve in which she was just trying to spin it in the court. Thirdly, that call gave Serena’s opponent double-match point.

Let me provide an equialent scenario in the NBA. It’s Game 6 of the NBA Finals, the Lakers are down two points with eight seconds left and Kobe has the ball. Pau Gasol stands in the lane for 3 1/4 seconds. Letter of the law, Gasol committed a violation. Any NBA official who would call that would probably be not allowed to ref the Finals again for five years.

Now, lets move on to Serena’s reaction. She walked over to the line judge and said, “If I could, I would stick this effing ball down your effing throat,” and she stuck her racket out and continued to yell at her. Because Serena smashed her racket after losing the first set, she was already given a warning. Due to the profane-laced outburst, she was penalized the next progression - one point. It just happened to be that point gave Clijsters the match, a unfortunate outcome that cheated the fans and Serena’s opponent, who went on to win the U.S.  Open title.

Following the match, Serena didn’t formally apologize for two days later in a statement most likely prepared by her handlers, and then went on Oprah to promote her book. If she said the same thing to an NBA ref that she said to the line judge, Serena would have been thrown out and suspended. Instead, she received a small fine and dent in her reputation.

Single-fault: Her poor sportsmanship
Double-fault: Failing to truthfully apologize on her own. If you need your handlers to tell you to apologize, it’s not genuine.

Last fall, Minnesota Youth Athletic Services Executive Director Dan Klinkhammer wrote in the MYAS newsletter that BasketCases should be required reading.

“We have a local basketball referee - Derek Wolden - who has authored a book entitled “BasketCases.” He does a great job of showing how youth basketball parents can lower their blood pressure and keep their sanity. I read the book white sitting in my deer stand during deer hunting and the entire time I kept thinking, “Why didn’t somebody write this sooner. This book should be required reading for every coach and parent before their kids hit the court. Wolden does a great job explaining the rules and, more importantly, he explains how and why officials administer the rules the way they do. If making “BasketCases required reading for your coaches and parents will make a more enjoyable and understandable season, then do it.”

In the August edition of the newsletter, Dan wrote an outstanding column about “unintended consequences” of youth coaches who behavor poorly. I e-mailed Dan yesterday and received permission to reprint it here, because the more people who read it, the better. Dan brings up several good points. Please take five minutes. It will be well worth your time.

The term “unintended consequences” has been in the news a lot lately. It usually seems to have some sort of political connection but in my world, it relates to unsportsmanlike conduct. If you’ve read any of my articles over the last 20 years, you already know that unsportsmanlike conduct is my #1 pet peeve and I spend a lot of time harping about the need for better behavior. Regretfully, I have left out WHY I find unsportsmanlike behavior so extremely distasteful and it revolves around those unintended consequences that are the direct result of someone’s foolish and out of control actions.

Sports are packed full of emotion and I fully understand that there are times when a person finds it difficult to control those emotions. I have played, coached and officiated, so I’ve seen, heard and felt all of the emotions that they have experienced. Bad calls will always be part of the game. Erroneous rule interpretations by amateur officials will always be part of the game. Spontaneous reactions will always be part of the game and everyone will experience their fair share of frustration.

Every coach, player and parent should realize this before they ever take their respective positions on the field or court or in the bleachers. Everyone should have a plan for how they are going to react when that moment of choice arrives. Are you going to scream and yell at the officials or are you going to control your emotions and plead your case in a respectful and diplomatic manner? If you take the screaming and yelling approach, be prepared for all of the unintended consequences that will follow.

Frankly, I don’t feel much compassion for a coach who gets booted for verbal or physical abuse of the officials. I do, however, feel sorry for the people who are left in the wake of the coach’s tirade. The first victims of the unintended consequences are the players who witnessed their coach’s temper tantrum. The kids can look at the scenario and come to a number of possible conclusions including: 1) This must be the way to handle the situation and I’ll do it the same way when it’s my turn; 2) I am embarrassed to be on this team; or 3) I play ball to have fun and this just isn’t fun anymore. Yep - the kids are the first casualty of unsportsmanlike behavior. I can’t begin to count the number of kids I know who quit playing because their coaches were behaving like idiots on a regular basis.

Officials quitting is the next unintended consequence. When I was the Recreation Director in Pipestone and Winona, recruiting and retaining officials were my biggest challenges. If I’ve heard it once I’ve heard it a thousand times, “You can’t pay me enough to be an umpire or referee.” I used to recruit officials using several tactics. I’d beg them, shame them or dare them to do it! I didn’t have many problems retaining the grizzled veterans but it was like pulling teeth to get new officials hired. Most of them were players and they had already seen numerous unsportsmanlike incidents where rage and anger were directed at the officials. Not many people want to invite that kind of turmoil into their lives or relive those moments over and over again.

Think I’m exaggerating? There were several years in Winona when I lost 50% of my basketball referees before the season ended. They just got fed up with the constant bickering and disrespect that was being displayed on a daily basis. The unsportsmanlike conduct got so bad during one flag football season that I had to cancel the second half of the season because I didn’t have any officials who would work the games.

The parents also become victims of a coach’s unsportsmanlike behavior and usually react in one of two ways when the action between officials and their coach gets heated. They either join in the free for all or they hide their heads in shame and embarrassment. For those who like to join in the mayhem, I am always amused at how bold some of them are in the bleachers and how meek they become as soon as they are standing alone. Far too often, the parents who didn’t join in the fray end up making apologies to the officials, tournament administrators or the other team when their coach goes ballistic. Then they must have a heart to heart talk with their children to explain that their coach’s behavior was not the way to handle things and the parents don’t condone the coach’s unsportsmanlike approach to settling disagreements. Then those same concerned parents have to report their observations to the local youth sports association and the disciplinary process begins, which is no fun for anyone.

Another unintended consequence directly hits the core of any youth sport association - the Board members. When the actions of any coach, player or parent become so egregious that the matter requires Board attention, those volunteers start thinking twice about their involvement at the administrative level. Board members have the responsibility of recruiting, training and evaluating the individuals who are selected to coach their kids. They also have the responsibility of disciplining those coaches when they get out of line. Unfortunately, the coaches are their friends, neighbors, coworkers, relatives or local business owners. Not many of us want to be put into a situation where we can make more enemies than we already have. Not many of us want to fire a volunteer coach. Not many of us look forward to adding to the turmoil that we all deal with in our daily lives.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out why people don’t raise their hands to serve on the Board. As testimony to that presumption, all I have to do is revert back to a recent conversation I had with a Board member from a north metro community who said, “I’ve been on the Board for four years and I’m tired of babysitting the kids, parents and coaches. I barely have enough time to handle the basics of what needs to be done and now I have to spend a ton of time dealing with the disciplinary process because one of our coaches doesn’t know when to shut his mouth. I guess it’s time to let someone else take over.”

So there you have it. Now you know why I’m so peeved about the unsportsmanlike behavior of some of our participants. Bad behavior goes much deeper than the coach being ejected from a game. Bad behavior messes with kids’ heads, becomes the #1 deterrent for hiring and retaining qualified officials, places the parents squarely between their kids and the coach, and makes Board members second-guess their volunteer involvement with the association. That is not a pretty picture by anyone’s standards, and it could all be eliminated if coaches would learn how to plead their case in an appropriate and respectful manner as opposed to yelling and screaming at the officials and refusing to leave the court or field once they have been ejected.

Everyone needs to remember that your behavior is a choice you make but you don’t have any control over the unintended consequences that will follow.